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Staying out of the shrubs

Posted on 14 May, 2014 at 1:00 Comments comments (0)

Staying on track is a challenge you will have to face, overcome and master if you are planning to design your own life.  If you are not used to being in charge of your day and are more prone to being told what to do next, this will be one of your biggest adventures.

Wanting to work for yourself you may have visions of sleeping late, having coffee with friends and lazy lunches by the beach. These are all fabulous ways to spend your time and something you are able to do 20% of the time but if you really want to get off the ground and running with your business - you are really going to have to spend 80% of your time being disciplined.

 

Discipline is your ally, with discipline you are able to accomplish so much more and alleviate so many distractions.  For the beginners amongst you,  simply planning your day is the best way to start. 

This is achieved by

Buying yourself a diary (it doesn't matter if you do not have one single client as yet)

Block out in your diary what you do in your normal week. Examples - take kidlets to swimming lessons, driving lesson for teenager, hair cut.  You get the idea

Block out time for household chores, be disciplined.  Get it all done by a certain time

Dress for work, don't lay around all day in your tracky dacks... It is all about feeling good, someone who greets you at the door and they have not managed to brush their hair yet .. does not really emit a sense of accomplishment.

Make appointments with your clients even if you only have one.  "I have a two o'clock appointment free next Tuesday".. Act as if...  This will keep you organised and committed to your business.

Book in exercise, EEK!  yes exercise, this is going to keep you happy... exercise  creates endorphins.. the natural high... this can only be beneficial

Schedule time to check emails and social media. This one is a huge distraction so keep it focused and get off... 

Once you have your weekly plan stick to it. 

If you find yourself procrastinating and going off track start with one discipline per week and work your way up until you have mastered your list and you are staying on the path to your future self. 

Below is a simple plan to show you it is possible for anyone  to find hours in a busy week to

accomplish your dreams

 

Adversity

Posted on 26 April, 2014 at 20:00 Comments comments (0)

Life is sending you signals  constantly.


Are you aware of what is being sent your way?  


If you are constantly having challenges day in and day out - there is a big problem with your vibration.  Like attracts like as they say. I have aquaintances that are cranky little ants when they drive around in their car and you know what happens ?  They bump into all the other cranky little ants out on the road, they get the traffic jams, the breakdowns and all the other negative experiences related to the road.  Why?  Because that is what they are sending out so that is what they recieve back, it's really that simple.


Take a  look at the adversity that is making it's self known to you and figure out what the lesson is to be learnt.  If you do not learn the lesson, the same challenges will keep popping up in your life until you do. 


So is adversity a good thing or just simply annoying?  In my eyes it is a good thing, it is here to teach - so how can it be a bad thing.  If you are being taught you are growing and if you are growing you can only become a better version of yourself. So I say welcome adversity with open arms and embrace it.  Obviously if you are being bombarded by adversity you may need to go back to our old friend meditation and re group for a moment just to get a little balance back in your life. 





How do you change your situation?  How do you grow to the next level?  This is where you have to be brutally honest with yourself, you are the only one who truly knows the real you.  Society gets the polished version, but you, you get the raw and real version.  What is it that you are fighting and creating resistance against.  Are you unhappy in a relationship, your job is it not gelling with the real you.  For instance if you are an animal lover (as am I) and you are working at the abattoir.  This is a mis match, it goes against your core beliefs and you will be out of wack. Are you working indoors stuck behind a computer and in an air-conditioned environment, when all you want to do is plant another Eden in your community. Again a mis match, you are also out of wack.

 


Realigning yourself will temper the adversity that is being sent your way and will create a more peaceful and abundant existence.



So take your adversity - whether it be your current situation, something that has happened in your past that you are dragging  around with you like an old chum,or it could even been your body rebelling against you.  Whatever your adversity is dissect it, get it to bare it's soul to you and then focus on the solution not the adversity.  Answers will come to you once you realign your focus, you will be unable to alleviate any issue if you are constantly focusing on the challenge / adversity and not the solution. 



Be thankful for the adversity and the lessons and knowledge it has given you 

Then move on! 





Fear and Doubt

Posted on 12 April, 2014 at 4:05 Comments comments (2)

Fear & Doubt


Being frightened triggers automatic responses within our system, this used to be very handy many moons ago but it is very unlikely that we are going to be chased through the supermarket by a wild gorilla when we pop in to pick up some eggs. 


Our body is now in a constant state of fear daily as we are bombarded by the 24 hour plug in that we are graced with. Don't get me wrong I am a huge fan of gratitude and am immensely grateful to Steve Jobs and his vision, but someone forgot to tell our body it is just a story in another land and the danger even though it is real, it is not real for us.  So here we are in a constant state of fear with our adrenal glands in over drive. 


So what is the solution, unplug.  How funny as you are probably reading this on your ipad or laptop and I am telling you to switch off.  It is so important for your health and well being you need to gain the discipline to do so. 


Our bodies need time to get grounded become one with our creator / the universe  / spirit  whatever tickles  your fancy. It is so important for soul to make this connection, this will be one of the major contributing factors to avoid total burnout and to your success.


How else can we control our fear / doubt.  The next best thing is to get control of the little voice in your head.  For funs sake lets call her Mildred.  She has been with you since you can remember always in the back of your mind just edging you a little closer to her buddies fear and doubt.  If you can become aware of this little (sometimes overwhelming) voice  and figure out  the triggers that set Mildred on one of her raving rants, you are heading towards peace and contentment.  Take note of when she appears, you will be amazed at how much better you feel and how much more empowered you feel,  now that you are simply aware.



Fear and doubt can also sabotage your future, it can literally paralyse you with fear that you simply do nothing.  You have all these dreams and aspirations and you simply do not act on any of them because you are frightened, what if you actually succeed, frightened of the changes it may bring, frightened of what people may think of you, frightened of failing.  So instead you do nothing because that is safe and everyone else is doing it, so it must be ok.



Do you want to be a success? Now that's a whole new blog certainly opening up a big can of worms there, what is success and how do we define it?  Or even the question how do others define our success through their eyes? 



Don't be frightened, don't waste your life being something you hate and do out of duty.  Be who you want to be.  So take the time today and find your Mildred and get to know her.  Find out what sets her off and take note, be there to silence her and embrace the contentment this brings.

 

 

Is TV Killing your dreams

Posted on 20 March, 2014 at 20:30 Comments comments (0)

Turn off your TV!


This is I must admit - my pet peeve!


TV is a complete waste of time, energy & simply your life.  You are literally watching someone else fufull their dreams whilst you windle away hours of your own life.

Lets take a look at what you are exposing yourself to. Lets face it the majority of entertainment (used very lightly I must say) is repeats, imported b grade rubbish or DIY everything.  News is thrown at you in bucket loads, there may be the odd educational show on some of the less commercial channels that could be worth a portion of your valuable time.  But on the whole is it really worth it?


Have any of you heard the song by iconic band Skyhooks - Horror Movie?  The lyrics go something like this 


Horror movie right there no my TV, Horror movie right there on my TV, Horror movie right there on my TV, shocking me right out of my brain.. it's the 6.30 news.


I truly believe we must all be informed about society and what takes place, but with TV you are simply bombarded with negativity constantly. Sitting there flicking from one channel to the next viewing the same awful images.


Before we had TV and satellites you would only know about what was happening in your own community, your own little village.  News of a disaster may get to the village once a year via merchants selling their wares.  Now it is every single day, there is even a 24 hour news channel that you can stock up on all of the sadness, mishaps and disasters at any given moment.   We now know what is going on in every single country at any given moment.  It is impossible for the human brain to function in a healthy manner with that much negativity being thrown at it daily. 


Research from Dr Aric Sigman states in Remotely Controlled - Common effects of both TV viewing and Pyschosurgery include:


  • Reduction in critical thinking 
  • Less Motivation
  • Less Creativity and Perserverance in problem solving 
  • Greater separation of thought from emotion, making human behaviour more conformist.

 


Harvard Researchers have also concluded that there should be a recommended daily allowance (exposure) 

  • Children under 3 should see no screen entertainment 
  • After this age, TV viewing of good quality programming should be limited to 1 hour per day 
  • Teenagers should be limited to 1.5 hours per day
  • And for us Adults a mere 2 hours per day.  (More than enough time to catch up on world events & find comedy for a bit of light relief.)



 



Australians spend one month a year sitting watching TV 

Australian adults spend on average four hours per day doing sedentary leisure activities such as watching TV compared with only half an hour of physical activity, according to data released by the Australian Bureau of Statistics today. 

Dr Paul Jelfs, from the Australian Bureau of Statistics, said the 2011 - 12 data reveals a tendency for high levels of sedentary  behaviour across the adult population. 

"Australian adults spent an average of 13 hours a week watching TV.  While males and females spent a similar number of hours sitting to watch TV, males spent around 45 mnutes more per week using the computer (5.5 compared to 4.8 hours) and 40 minutes playing electronic games (one hour compared to 18 minutes)" Dr Jelfs said. 

"It all adds up, with men and women spending over two months of each year on sedentary leisure activities (65 days for men and 61 days for women per year)  including public transport. 


Source - Statistics are from ABS 19.7.2013


If you are to find your true purpose in life you will need to limit your exposure to the "idiot box" that takes up so much room in your living area. 


Look for alternatives, use your time wisely it silps by very fast.  Seek out like minded people through the internet, local sporting clubs or like me make a choice, you decide what you would like in your mind.. not the little (or these days) big black box making those choices for you!


As a wise man once said... 


Make it a goal to have a home library!



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